Make sure you are in a safe environment. If you believe you are still in danger, call 911.
- Once you’re out of physical danger, contact someone you know and trust, such as a friend, relative, teacher, school counselor, friend’s parent, doctor or religious leader.
- Call someone for advice, support and help. The Women’s Resource Center has trained advocates on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Feel free to call at any time to ask questions and talk about options. All services are free and confidential.
- If you are thinking about suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.TALK.
- If you have already taken steps to harm yourself or feel that you can’t stop yourself from committing suicide, call 911 or go to the emergency room.
Consider reporting the assault to police
- While many survivors find pursuing justice an important part of their recovery process, only you can decide if it is the right choice for you. If you have questions about the process, call the Women’s Resource Center and they can explain what to expect.
- If you do plan to report the assault to police, or think there’s a chance you will want to in the future, write down all the details of the assault that you can remember — while the memory is still fresh.
- If you do report: Most successful prosecutions end in a plea agreement, without trial, which means that the victim does not have to testify. However if your case does go to trial, you will have to testify. If you are worried about having to testify about intimate matters, let the advocate, police, or prosecutor know about your concerns. They can help explain the trial process and what would be expected of you.
Complete a forensic exam (sometimes called a “rape kit”)
- After a sexual assault, there may be certain evidence of the assault left behind on the victim’s body and clothing. A forensic exam collects this evidence and documents the physical findings to provide information to help reconstruct the details about the assault in question.
- If you intend to report the assault to police, or think that there is a chance you will want to in the future, it is important to have a forensic exam as soon as possible —while the evidence is still able to be collected.
- Under federal law, you are entitled to receive a free forensic exam even if you do not report the assault to police. In Minnesota, the county in which the assault occurred will be billed for the exam. This frees you from making an immediate decision about reporting — you can preserve the evidence now, and decide whether to report later. Winona Health will hold the kits for 30 days to give you a chance to think about what you would like to do.
- Don’t bathe or brush your teeth before visiting the emergency room in order to preserve the forensic evidence.
The forensic exam involves collecting evidence of the assault, such as hairs, fluids and fibers, and preserving the evidence for forensic analysis. If you suspect you may have been drugged, ask that a urine sample be collected during the evidentiary exam.
Seek medical attention (even if you don’t intend to report the assault to police)
There are medical concerns that arise both immediately following the assault and much later. Even with no visible physical injuries, it is important to be tested for STIs and pregnancy.
- If you visit a hospital, ask for testing and preventative treatment. They may provide you with antibiotics for STIs as well as help you to arrange follow-up testing.
- The Centers for Disease Control recommends post-exposure HIV prophylaxis for victims of sexual assault (prophylaxis is treatment meant to prevent, rather than treat or cure, a disease).
- CDC recommends follow-up testing as well as other blood tests to rule out HIV at two weeks, six weeks, three months and six months after an assault.
- Rape, just like consensual intercourse, can lead to pregnancy. Winona Health will provide Plan-B, or the “morning-after pill” to victims of sexual assault.
Healing from rape or sexual assault takes time
The effects of sexual assault on victims and their loved ones can be felt psychologically, emotionally, and physically. They can be very brief or end up long-term in duration; they may even last a lifetime. It is important to remember that there is no one “normal” reaction to sexual assault. Every individual’s response will be different depending on the situation. Healing from rape or sexual assault takes time. Here are some common issues that survivors may need to consider in working toward physical and mental health:
Physical Self-Care
We all function better when our bodies are in top condition. Therefore, those who take better care of themselves, have some key tools to better handle the aftermath of a stressful situation like sexual assault. We tend to underestimate the value of things like eating a healthy diet, getting regular exercise, and getting a good night’s sleep.
- Adequate Nutrition: To better concentrate on dealing with the emotional aspects of sexual assault recovery, ensure that you are receiving the nutrition you need. Learn more about eating a nutritious diet.
- Exercise: The Center for Disease Control recommends at least 30 minutes of exercise 5 times a week. Even just a quick walk at lunchtime, can help combat feelings of sadness or depression and prevent chronic health problems.
- Stay busy: Many survivors have full time jobs, go to school, volunteer and have families. Finding time to do activities that you enjoy is an important aspect of self-care. Get involved in a sport or hobby that you love! If you have a spouse or partner, make a date night and stick with it. Treat leisure activities as seriously as work or school appointments.
- Sleep: Make sure your body is getting the rest it needs. Although every person is different, a reasonable guideline is that most people need between 7-10 hours of sleep per night.
Emotional Self-Care
Understanding the importance of your emotional well-being is the start of living a healthy lifestyle. You must be willing to feel and express emotions about what you’ve gone through in the past and what you will go through in the future. Whether it is with one other person, a group of people, or on your own, knowing, accepting, and saying how you feel are steps in the right direction.
- Counseling: Seeing a psychologist, a clinical social worker, or a therapist, one-on-one or as part of a support group, can help you and your loved ones process what has happened. Contact the Women’s Resource Center for suggestions.
- Journal or Diary: Some survivors find that recording their thoughts and feelings in a journal or diary helps them manage their emotions after an assault. Meditation or relaxation exercises help many survivors as well.
- Surround yourself with positive people: It’s important to make sure that the people in your life are supportive. Nurture relationships with people that make you feel good about yourself!
- Look out for yourself: Be wary of friends or family who leave you feeling tired or depressed when you see them, never have time to listen to you, or dismiss or belittle your experience as a survivor. Focus on spending time with those you care about and who care about what is best for you.
Know that it is never too late to call for help
Even if the attack happened years ago, it’s never too late to get help. Many victims do not realize they need help until months or years later. Call the Women’s Resource Center to talk about what your options may be.
*Source: www.rainn.org