There are three main considerations determining whether a sexual act is consensual or a crime. “Consensual” means that both people are old enough to consent, have the capacity to consent, and agreed to the sexual contact.
Are the participants old enough to consent?
Each state sets an “age of consent,” which is the minimum age someone must be to have sex. People below this age are considered children and cannot legally agree to have sex. In other words, even if the child or teenager says yes, the law says no.
- In Minnesota, the age of consent is 16. If a person is under 16 and the person they have sex with is 2 or more years older, it is considered a crime. Generally, “I thought she/he was 16″ is not considered a legal excuse — it’s up to you to make sure your partner is old enough to legally take part.
Did both participants have the capacity to consent?
States also define who has the mental and legal capacity to consent. Those with diminished capacity — for example, some people with disabilities, some elderly people, and people who have been drugged, are under the influence of alcohol or are unconscious — may not have the legal ability to agree to have sex.
Did all participants agree to take part?
Did someone use physical force to make you have sexual contact with him/her? Has someone threatened you to make you have intercourse with them? If so, it is rape.
- It doesn’t matter if your partner thinks you meant yes, or if you’ve already started having sex — “No” also means “Stop.” If your partner proceeds despite your expressed instruction to stop, they have not only violated basic codes of morality and decency, they may have also committed a crime.
Common Questions
I didn’t resist physically — does that mean it isn’t rape?
People respond to an assault in different ways. Just because you didn’t resist physically doesn’t mean it wasn’t rape — in fact, many victims make the conscious decision that physical resistance would cause the perpetrator to become more violent. Lack of consent can be expressed (saying “no”) or it can be implied from the circumstances (for example, if you were under the statutory age of consent, if you were temporarily incapacitated, or if you were afraid to object because the perpetrator threatened to harm you or a loved one).
I used to date the person who assaulted me — does that mean it isn’t rape?
Rape can occur when the offender and the victim have a pre-existing relationship (sometimes called “date rape” or “acquaintance rape”), or even when the offender is a victim’s spouse. It does not matter whether the other person is an ex-lover or a complete stranger, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve had sex in the past.
I don’t remember the assault — does that mean it isn’t rape?
Just because you don’t remember being assaulted doesn’t necessarily mean it didn’t happen and that it wasn’t rape. Memory loss can result from the ingestion of GHB and other “rape drugs,” and from excessive alcohol consumption. Note, without clear memories or physical evidence, it may be more difficult to pursue prosecution (talk to the Women’s Resource Center or the local police for guidance).
I was asleep or unconscious when it happened — does that mean it isn’t rape?
If you were asleep or unconscious, then you didn’t give consent. Note, though, that without clear memories or physical evidence, it may be more difficult to pursue prosecution (talk to the Women’s Resource Center or the local police for guidance).
I was drunk or the perpetrator was drunk — does that mean it isn’t rape?
Alcohol and drugs are not an excuse — or an alibi. The key question is still: did you consent or not? Regardless of whether you were drunk or sober, if the sex is nonconsensual, it is rape. If you were unconscious due to drugs or alcohol consumption, that means you were unable to give consent.
I thought “no,” but didn’t say it — does that mean it isn’t rape?
If you didn’t say “no” because you were legitimately scared for your life or safety then it is rape. Sometimes it isn’t safe to resist, physically or verbally. If you were under the influence of drugs and alcohol, and were physically unable to say “no”, then it is rape.
*Source: www.rainn.org